![]() ![]() "It bridges the gap between the academic world, where Harvard students are comfortable, and the social world, where they are not. "Coffee is not quite a date-it's somewhere in between," says Elie M. To compensate for what many see as the lack of formalized dating, the construct of Having Coffee has been institutionalized. A date is when two people go out alone and they're not good friends. I don't think dating today is as formal as the term implies-people aren't like that. I used to think that "dating" was a Happy Days phenomenon, but I've done it a lot. "Sometimes you don't know you're having a date until you're on it. He is one of the few who believe dating is alive and well at Harvard. In the midst of our stilted and awkward conversation, I was informed, to my surprise, that we were in fact on a date. As we sat in the lounge of a shitty Italian restaurant (I'm allergic to Italian food) waiting for our Formica booth to be ready, we were surrounded by aged alcoholics and squirming children, all of whom were silently and raptly watching golf on the big screen TV (I hate watching golf). For example, the other night, I somewhat reluctantly accompanied a male friend to the North End for dinner. The delineations of a date are infinitely problematic. Such miscommunication leads to murder, stalking, and the decay of Western civilization." I've been unaware that they were dates, where as the other half thought they were dates. ![]() "The dates I've purportedly been on have been miscommunication dates. Frautschi '95-'97 concurs about the abysmal state of dating interactions. "People should definitely go on dates more often specifically, the people who I'm into should date me more." "Most of the people I know who go on dates are already having a relationship," laments Raphael D. Having a date didn't mean you wanted to marry someone, and it didn't mean you wanted to start spending all of your free time together. They got dressed up, they went out to do specific activities, and sometimes they fooled around. They called each other before Thursday to schedule Saturday night activities. "People either meet each other and have one night stands or they immediately start having relationships." Indeed, it frequently seems that one has only two options for romantic interaction: to follow the immortal words of Liz Phair and "fuck and run," or become the extra roommate in the significant other's suite. Let us begin with the obvious: do Harvardians date? "Not enough," says Daniel E. Romance is in the air, but it seems somewhat lacking in formalized practice. Harvard's yearly bout of spring fever is about to begin, as section attendance drops and House courtyards become littered with prematurely scantily clad bodies. The birds are chirping, the buds are bursting, a young man's fancy turns to mush. ![]()
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